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UPDATE: My sister is being held in her home by her husband – I don’t know what advice to give. — Police showed up and he was shot. [Support][Trigger Warning](r/TwoXChromosomes)
Your sister is in heavy denial about the abuse she’s been suffering.
This isn’t your fault. All the police were doing is investigating a situation. They heard enough when approaching the scene to feel like the situation was dangerous enough to pull out their weapons. What you said may have given them concern, but to be concerned enough to pull a firearm is another matter entirely. They only supposed to do that when there’s a danger to themselves or others. Your sister’s husband was dumb enough to raise a gun to a cop. Doesn’t matter if it was loaded it not, no cop is going to wait to find out because waiting can cost a life, theirs or an innocent. I’m wondering if he was trying to commit suicide by cop. Anyone who knows anything about guns and the law is that once you raise a gun to a cop they will shoot.
You may have saved your sister’s & her son’s life, even if she won’t thank you for it. As for her inlaws, I doubt they can make a lawsuit stick. All you did was ask the police to check on your sister. What happened as a result of that is not your fault. It sounds to me like everyone involved is mentally sick, and it’s sad all around. I think maybe there couldn’t have been a good outcome, just degrees of bad.
This whole situation reminds me of a book called The Gift of Fear. That book may help you come to some sort of understanding of why this may of happened, & honestly I think this book should be required reading for young folks.
I’m sorry this happened. Good luck to you and your family.