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Black women of Reddit, can you help me with my niece’s hair?(r/AskWomen)
black hair is essentially just really really curly hair. Check out /r/curlyhair OR try to find the book Curly Girl it’s short and simple to read and explains everything.
As a rundown of the basics –
MOISTURIZE. My conditioner to shampoo ratio is like 10:1. You may want to consider using less shampoo or even dropping sulfates altogether.
Don’t try to detangle or comb her hair dry – only when it’s wet and slick with consitioner. Don’t brush it, only comb (I recommend the tangle teezer).
Use gel/curl cream, naked hair will often become really dry and frizzy, which makes it look like a giant poofba but more importantly causes tangles and giant mats.
Since she’s lttle and gonna be running around most of the time, I’d suggest you keep her hair in protective styles – which can be as simple as just keeping it braided. If you can you and your stepbrother should learn to french braid (lots of tutorials on YouTube) – you can put her hair in two french braids and essentially not have to touch it for a couple days at all, and it won’t have a chance to tangle much.
Good luck, it’s really nice of you to be so concerned. The only other thing I would say is – do the research, but pass it on to your brother. Don’t feel the need to take over because he’s a guy and hair is a girl thing – plenty of black fathers are now stepping up their game and learning to take care of their daughters hair, he can do the same!