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I take issue with “my feelings shouldn’t be hurt.” Your feelings are your feelings. They are what they are, and you have no need to be shamed about them. Feelings are just data— immediate responses to situations. Feelings, by themselves, aren’t inherently BAD or GOOD, or destructive or benign. Feelings are just data you use to make decisions, and to inform your actions. It’s the ACTIONS that can be good, bad, destructive or benign.
For whatever reason, you were uncomfortable. This is real, and it is worth thinking through and seeking counsel to figure out if you need to take action. The purpose these feelings serve in this situation are just what you are doing— listening to them, trying to figure out where they come from. Doing some self examination. Seeking the perspective of others. Do they come mostly from buttons that were installed in YOU and therefore they are your issue? Is this a healthy boundary that has been crossed and therefore something you need to address?
What I am suggesting here is that you not focus on the FEELINGS— “Am I too sensitive?”— and focus on whether action is required, and what that might be. It’s a subtle…