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[Rant][Reconciliation] I am just ANGRY(r/survivinginfidelity)
Hey there. I am sorry you are here.
It depends on what part of the healing journey you are on. Anger is a part of that. The betrayal of infidelity isn’t just about the sex, but is also rooted in the destruction of truth, reality, and trust of the relationship. This isn’t something that is gotten over in a few weeks, or even a few months.
Most of the newer studies put the healing timeline of infidelity at 2-5 years, but my observation is that 3/3.5 – 5 years is the norm.
No wayward really thinks about the consequences of what an affair will do if it is discovered. The sad fact is that waywards are (and understand I am one of them) are utterly selfish and self-centered people who didn’t give a damn about you at the time the affair was going on. We (including myself here) were too busy scurrying around hiding, meeting up with APs, etc to put together a full logical cost benefit analysis taking into consideration risks, and rewards of our actions. Look. I know I sound cheeky, but the reality is that I was a terribly selfish asshole who put my family through hell.…