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I don’t want to have sex, it’s your fault! You don’t want to have sex? It’s your fault!(r/MensRights)
> Do I just have terrible luck with women?
No. You make poor choices with women.
It’s clear that you’ve ceded dominance to your female partners and they are calling all the shots sexually. This rarely works well. Very few women have any clue or ability to be a good dominant partner, because a good dominant partner is both a leader and a caregiver. He/she initiates and leads but is also caring and giving.
Most women don’t get the caregiver part of a sexual relationship because they are too self-focused. They expect to be taken care of by a man, not to take care of a man. That’s why these women don’t appreciate your need to be warmed up and put in the mood and won’t take any responsibility for getting you there. That’s why they mock you instead of reassuring you when it comes to rejection.
You have two options:
Find that rare woman who can be dominant AND caring sexually.
Become more dominant yourself. Power is sexually stimulating for most women, and if you exhibit that personal power, you will have a much easier time getting your partner in the mood. Just make sure you balance the dominance with caring so as not be become domineering.
Your odds are probably better with the latter option. I recommend this as a guide book to making that change.