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Is it normal to feel sad after losing your virginity?(r/AskWomen)
I guess it’s “normal” in the sense that there have been other people who have felt this way but I don’t think that it’s “normal” in the sense that I don’t think viewing your ‘virginity’ as a thing that you ‘lost’ which makes you less than is a healthy way to think about it.
Virginity is a bullshit concept to begin with. Placing importance on it only sets people up to feel less than for engaging in something perfectly normal and healthy and natural. Having sex when you feel ready is as positive a thing as not having sex when you don’t feel ready.
Edit: a day later and i’m still so angry that you have to unlearn 21 years of worth of internalized slut shaming and I feel like maybe I didnt say enough. I grew up Christian and, as a teen, went to all these talks and heard all these speakers talk about how women are either a lamborghini (something prized because having one is rare) or a ford (a car that’s heavily advertised, everyone owns, and no one is impressed by) and how we should protect our “treasure” and how disrespectful it is to our future husbands…