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My fiancé just left me because I bought a vibrator. Advice?(r/TwoXChromosomes)
> I enjoy giving blow jobs even if I’m not sexually aroused
The problem here seems to be that you’re seeing the problem through your lens, not his. In other words, you’re comparing his response to what YOU would do, not why he’s refusing to do it.
You might find a lot of value in this book: www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Wo…
I found it amazingly insightful, especially in helping communicate together. It contains exercises that you can do together, so it’s a together-book, not something you read in isolation. Good luck, hopefully you guys can work together to find a solution that works for both of you, whatever that is.