I Say No

When I Say No, I Feel Guilty


How to find the balance between being assertive and being a jerk?
The best-seller that helps you say: “I just said ‘no’ and I don’t feel guilty!”  Are you letting your kids get away with murder?  Are you allowing your mother-in-law to impose her will on you?  Are you embarrassed by praise or crushed by criticism?  Are you having trouble coping with people?  Learn the answers in When I Say No, I Feel Guilty,  the best-seller with revolutionary new techniques for getting your own way.

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How to find the balance between being assertive and being a jerk?(r/socialskills)

Ooh *raises hand * I can answer this one! Good on you for recognizing there’s a difference!

I asked here a few days ago about assertiveness training. Didn’t get many replies but I searched for books to order and I’ve found two that have blown me away! Seriously! I’m already changing my behavior for the better. The books are: “The Assertiveness Workbook” by Dr. Randy Paterson and “When I Say No I Feel Guilty” by Manuel J. Smith. Both cheap and easy to find on ebay.

I’m still waiting for the 2nd book but I’ve only had The Assertiveness Workbook a few days and already Im applying what I’ve learned. EXAMPLE: (I’m a nurse) Just last night at work a doctor started yelling at me on the phone for something completely out of my control. Instead of feeling flustered like I normally do I was able to calmly assert myself and get the patient what they needed. It was awesome!

For some immediate techniques to practice search Google and YouTube on: how to be assertive, fogging, negative assertion, negative inquiry, broken record. And read the reviews for those 2 books. Many reviewers explain techniques in the book.

Good luck! I’m learning assertiveness is not a case of “the have’s” and “the have not’s” It can be learned.

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