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This sounds like the beginnings of abuse. The gas lighting, the playing the victim, the nuclear option, the crazy making behavior. Find this book and read it: “Why Does He Do That” by Bancroft. www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/042…
Oh, and abuse tends to escalate over time. It will become more frequent and/or more intense, so don’t think that ignoring it will fix it. Or that you can fix him. Or that he will fix himself. He needs individual therapy, and not couples counseling.