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My abusive ex-husband is getting married again, his crazy fiancée messaged me this morning. Strange twist ending.(r/creepyPMs)
Among other things, the book covers exactly this phenomenon – how abusive people spread lies and rumors about their current or former paramours, recruiting others (especially new partners) into perpetuating the abuse.
The book describes these tactics as something the abuser uses to get sympathy, make themselves look like the real victim of abuse in former relationships, and start drama around them to distract people from focusing on their cruel behaviour.
I really wish I could paste the whole text on Reddit. It’s so worth the read when it comes to identifying abusive behaviours, red flags, and warning signs. Definitely check out the Facebook post I linked above, if nothing else.
Someone uploaded a .pdf version of the book here. The part about abusers lying to their current partners about their former partners is on page 692, under the section “An Abuser’s New Partner As His Leading Ally”.
His “crazy fiancée” seems like she would benefit greatly from this book. It sounds as though she’s being manipulated. Congratulations to you and his other exes for getting out of that situation. What a nightmare.