r/InternalFamilySystems · 2022

Most-mentioned books in r/InternalFamilySystems during 2022

This page ranks books by exact tracked mentions in r/InternalFamilySystems within the published source unit for 2022. Counts come from the reconciled subreddit-by-month matrix; a source unit may be a bounded sample.

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Tracked mentions in 2022

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No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model

Richard C. Schwartz

A therapist explains why the voice in your head that hates you is just another part trying, badly, to protect you.

31 in 2022

Self-Therapy: A Step-by-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness Using IFS

Jay Earley

Jay Earley writes a step-by-step manual for talking to your own internal parts, and r/internalfamilysystems says it beats anything IFS's own founder ever published.

29 in 2022

Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors

Janina Fisher

A trauma therapist argues the parts of you that feel broken are actually surviving, and gives you a framework to stop fighting them.

7 in 2022

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving

Pete Walker

Pete Walker names a fourth trauma response beyond fight, flight, and freeze: fawn, the instinct to appease the person who's hurting you.

6 in 2022

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Sue Johnson

A couples therapist maps every recurring fight back to one question neither partner is asking out loud: are you there for me?

6 in 2022

The Body Keeps the Score

Bessel van der Kolk

Bessel van der Kolk spent his career arguing trauma changes the nervous system, and r/CPTSD made the book its shared vocabulary for what happened to them.

6 in 2022

You Are the One You've Been Waiting For

Richard C. Schwartz

Richard Schwartz applies IFS to intimate relationships, arguing that the partner you keep seeking to fix you is a part of yourself.

5 in 2022

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Lindsay C. Gibson

A psychologist sorts adults raised by emotionally immature parents into internalizers who blame themselves and externalizers who blame everyone else.

2 in 2022

12 Rules for Life

Jordan B. Peterson

Twelve numbered rules, starting with standing up straight and ending with petting any cat you meet on the street.

1 in 2022

#10

Atlas of the Heart

Brené Brown

Brené Brown catalogs 87 human emotions with research definitions so readers can name what they actually feel instead of guessing.

1 in 2022

#11

Codependent No More

Melody Beattie

A 1986 self-help classic that names the pattern of losing yourself in someone else's crisis and tells you how to stop.

1 in 2022

#12

Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You

Susan Forward

A psychologist names the Fear, Obligation, and Guilt tactics abusers use to keep you compliant — and tells you how to stop responding.

1 in 2022

#13

Inner Bonding: Becoming a Loving Adult to Your Inner Child

Margaret Paul

Margaret Paul's six-step method for treating yourself like someone worth protecting, built on inner child work and the premise that self-abandonment drives most relationship pain.

1 in 2022

#14

Mindset

Carol S. Dweck

A Stanford psychologist argues that believing your abilities can grow is itself the ability that determines whether they do.

1 in 2022

#15

Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect

Jonice Webb

A therapist names what your parents never did: the neglect you can't quite prove, because nothing happened.

1 in 2022

#16

The Drama of the Gifted Child

Alice Miller

Alice Miller's 1979 argument that childhood emotional neglect creates a false self — and that reclaiming your real one requires grieving, not gratitude.

1 in 2022

#17

Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma

Peter A. Levine

A trauma therapist's account of the body finishing what fight-or-flight started, built around 'felt sense' exercises and a three-part brain model.

1 in 2022